Nancy Ross
Relationship and Family Consultant
Imago Relationship Therapy
Advanced Clinician & Workshop Presenter
Toronto, Canada
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Inspiration
One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside all people.
He said, 'My son, the battle is between two 'wolves' inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.
The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.'
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: 'Which wolf wins?' The old Cherokee simply replied, 'The one you feed.'
from Deepak Chopra, www.chopra.com, Obama and the Palin Effect:
Sometimes politics has the uncanny effect of mirroring the national psyche even when nobody intended to do that. This is perfectly illustrated by the rousing effect that Gov. Sarah Palin had on the Republican convention in Minneapolis this week. On the surface, she outdoes former Vice President Dan Quayle as an unlikely choice, given her negligent parochial expertise in the complex affairs of governing. Her state of Alaska has less than 700,000 residents, which reduces the job of governor to the scale of running one-tenth of New York City. By comparison, Rudy Giuliani is a towering international figure. Palin's pluck has been admired, and her forthrightness, but her real appeal goes deeper.
She is the reverse of Barack Obama, in essence his shadow, deriding his idealism and turning negativity into a cause for pride. In psychological terms the shadow is that part of the psyche that hides out of sight, countering our aspirations, virtue, and vision with qualities we are ashamed to face: anger, fear, revenge, violence, selfishness, and suspicion of "the other." For millions of Americans, Obama triggers those feelings, but they don't want to express them. He is calling for us to reach for our higher selves, and frankly, that stirs up hidden reactions of an unsavory kind. (Just to be perfectly clear, I am not making a verbal play out of the fact that Sen. Obama is black. The shadow is a metaphor widely in use before his arrival on the scene.) I recognize that psychological analysis of politics is usually not welcome by the public, but I believe such a perspective can be helpful here to understand Palin's message. In her acceptance speech Gov. Palin sent a rousing call to those who want to celebrate their resistance to change and a higher vision
Look at what she stands for:
- Small town values — a nostalgic return to simpler times disguises a denial of America's global role, a return to petty, small-minded parochialism.
- Ignorance of world affairs — a repudiation of the need to repair America's image abroad.
- Family values — a code for walling out anybody who makes a claim for social justice. Such strangers, being outside the family, don't need to be needed.
- Rigid stands on guns and abortion — a scornful repudiation that these issues can be negotiated with those who disagree.
- Patriotism — the usual fallback in a failed war.
- "Reform" — an italicized term, since in addition to cleaning out corruption and excessive spending, one also throws out anyone who doesn't fit your ideology.
Palin reinforces the overall message of the reactionary right, which has been in play since 1980, that social justice is liberal-radical, that minorities and immigrants, being different from "us" pure American types, can be ignored, that progressivism takes too much effort and globalism is a foreign threat. The radical right marches under the banners of "I'm all right, Jack," and "Why change? Everything's OK as it is." The irony, of course, is that Gov. Palin is a woman and a reactionary at the same time. She can add mom to apple pie on her resume, while blithely reversing forty years of feminist progress. The irony is superficial; there are millions of women who stand on the side of conservatism, however obviously they are voting against their own good. The Republicans have won multiple national elections by raising shadow issues based on fear, rejection, hostility to change, and narrow-mindedness
Obama's call for higher ideals in politics can't be seen in a vacuum. The shadow is real; it was bound to respond. Not just conservatives possess a shadow — we all do. So what comes next is a contest between the two forces of progress and inertia. Will the shadow win again, or has its furtive appeal become exhausted? No one can predict. The best thing about Gov. Palin is that she brought this conflict to light, which makes the upcoming debate honest. It would be a shame to elect another Reagan, whose smiling persona was a stalking horse for the reactionary forces that have brought us to the demoralized state we are in. We deserve to see what we are getting, without disguise.
- "Pain can only feed on pain. Pain cannot feed on joy. It finds it quite indigestible."
Nancy's comment: I love this! It makes so much sense. When I let go of pain, emotional or physical, I find joy and peace. I feel strong, safe, whole. When I am in the pain, emotional or physical, and don't believe I have any control about it, I can not see my way out to find the joy.
- "Power over others is weakness disguised as strength. True power is within, and it is available to you now."
Nancy's comment: How many times have all of us used our power, with children, with partners, with co-workers, etc. to get what we want? Let go of a hope for outcome, and let your inner self lead you. You are so very strong, where it really matters: in your inner self.
- "The more you are focused on time --past and future--the more you miss the NOW, the most precious thing there is."
Nancy's comment: NOW is absolutely all we have. The past is over and the future will be what it will be. I love my colleague's imagery that most people walk into the future backwards. What we have to do is shut the door, turn around slowly, and walk into the future feeling in the NOW and open the next now, with no expectations to let us slip into pain of loss or disappointment or fear of uncertainty or lack of safety.
From Abraham, channeled by Esther Hicks:
It seems like you really want different things, or are even choosing different paths. But when you both tend to your Emotional Journey, the Universe will cleverly give you both exactly what you want… When you tend to the Emotional Journey, this Universe has the resources and the cleverness to orchestrate for each of you what you exactly want even when you think they are opposites one from another. It's great fun to watch.
That "death do us part" thing is a protective mechanism. It says, "I don't trust me, and I don't trust you to be in a place where we are evoking the best from each other. And so, just to make sure, let's promise that even if we don't, we'll suffer it out together." Every law, sacred or secular, that we have ever seen in your environment has always come from a place of disconnection, from a place of protectiveness.
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